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《感觉良好，新心理疗法》 大卫？伯恩斯在这本书中写道：“先有行动，后有动机。你得先给水泵注水，让它启动起来。如果想等到有心情时再做，那不知要等到什么时候。”不想做某事时，你可能会先把它放一放，但我们往往会在投身做这件事后才会劲头十足。
自律是习惯的形成过程。它的益处很多，自律行为由少及多，久而久之，便形成了习惯。一旦彻底克服了旧习性，你就会感觉更好。自律时——无论是身体上，还是精神上——我们都处于最佳状态。
Secrets Every Achiever Knows
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In October 1982； a 25…year…old woman finished the New York City Marathon。 No big deal until you learn that Linda Down has cerebral palsy and was the first woman ever to plete the ； but kept going until she crossed the finish line； 11 hours after she started。 Her handicap limited her speed but not her determination。
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow once wrote，“Great is the art of beginning； but greater the art is of ending。” How nice it would be if we all had a genie who could help us finish what we begin。 Unfortunately； we don’t。 But what we do have is a dynamic called discipline—which extracts a high price。 Following one of Paderewski’s performances； a fan said to him； “I’d give my life to play like that。” The brilliant pianist replied； “I did。”txt电子书分享平台
每个成功者都知道的秘密（3）
Acplishment is often deceptive because we don’t see the pain and perseverance that produced it。 So we may credit the achiever with brains； brawn or lucky breaks； and let ourselves off the hook because we fall short in all three。 Not that we could all be concert pianists just by exercising enough discipline。 Rather； each of us has the makings of success in some endeavor； but we will achieve this only if we apply our wills and work at it。
How can we acquire stick…at…itiveness？ There is no simple； fast formula。 But I have developed a way of thinking that has rescued my own vacillating will more than once。 Here are the basic elements：
“Don’t” power This is as important as willpower。 The ancient Chinese philosopher Mencius said； “Men must be decided on what they will not do； and then they are able to act with vigor in what they ought to do。”
Discipline means choices Every time you say yes to a goal or objective； you say not to many more。 Every prize has its price。 The prize is the yes； the price is the no。 Igor Gorin； the noted Ukrainian…American baritone； told of his early days studying voice。 He loved to smoke a pipe； but one day his professor said；“Igor； you will have to make up your mind whether you are going to be a great singer； or a great pipe…smoker； you cannot be both。” So the pipe went。
Delayed gratification M。 Scott Peck； ； author of the best…seller The Road Less Traveled； describes this tool of discipline as “a process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure by meeting and experiencing the pain first and getting it over with。”
This might involve routine daily decisions—something as simple as skipping a favorite late…night TV show and getting to bed early； to be wide awake for a meeting the next morning。 Or it might involve longer…term resolves。 A young widow with three children decided to invest her insurance settlement in a college education for herself。 She considered the realities of a tight budget and little free time； but these seemed small sacrifices in return for the doors that a degree would open。 Today she is a highly paid financial consultant。
The secret of such mitment is getting past the drudgery and seeing the delight。 “The fact is that many worthwhile endeavors aren’t fun；” says syndicated radio and TV mentator Mort Crim。 “True； all work and no play makes Johnny a dull boy。 But trying to turn everything we do into play makes for terrible frustrations； because life—even the most rewarding one —includes circumstances that aren’t fun at all。 I like my job as a journalist。 It’s personally satisfying； bit it isn’t always fun。”
Achieving a balance Never confuse discipline with rigidity。 Perfection is not the aim； rather； strive for the peace of mind that es from being in charge of yourself。
每个成功者都知道的秘密（4）
Most of us need interludes in our work to take a walk or eat snack…whatever revives and refreshes。 Your breathers don’t need to be lengthy to shake out the cobwebs and give some relief。 Such rewards act as incentives for finishing a task； as well as helping you to maintain momentum。
True discipline achieves a balance of producing； not driving。 Even discipline needs to be disciplined。
Self…development Disciplined people are happier people because they are fulfilling inner potential。 A woman at one of my seminars told me about her six year…old daughter who swam with a team and practiced every morning for an hour； swimming 2000 to 3000 meters； she related a conversation her daughter had with a family friend。
“Do you like swimming？” the friend asked。
“Yes； I love it。”
“Is it fun？”
“No！”
That six…year…old had learned what many adults never experience： the joy of discipline and self…development。 Unfortunately； the very word discipline puts us off because it sounds restrictive and punitive—like a truant officer stalking us to make sure we toe the line。 True discipline isn’t on your back needling you with imperatives； it is at your side； nudging you with incentives。 When you understand that discipline is self…caring； not self…castigating； you won’t cringe at its mention； but will cultivate it。
Charley Boswell； a former University of Alabama football star with hopes of a professional baseball career； lost his eyesight in World War II； but that didn’t stop him“to bee the National Blind Golf Champion 17 times。” He was quoted as saying；“I never count what I’ve lost。 I only count what I have left。” That is self…development—that is discipline。
Habit…changing strategies Many a person’s downfall es in trying to change a bad habit by focusing on an undesirable behavior to replace it。
Countless people tell me they would like to eat better but don’t want to “give up” tasty food。 Rather than thinking about what they can’t have； they should think about what they can eat。 Fruit juice with sparkling mineral water is a delicious substitute for high…calorie soft drinks； snacks and cookies prepared with whole grains and fried fruits give candy bars good petition。
It isn’t easy to change old habits。 An overweight woman came to me during a seminar and said； “I’m so undisciplined。 I can’t stick to a diet and my house is always a mess。 I feel like a slob。” I told her she wasn’t totally undisciplined。“You made it to this conference。 You arrive promptly at each session； and you are neatly dressed。” She almost smiled； and then I added； “There’s probably a reason why you haven’t been able to lose weight or get your home in order。”
Later； I found out there was a big reason。 She was widowed a year before。 Her husband had been an alcoholic who verbally abused her all 24 years of their marriage。 It never occurred to her that a poor self…image was keeping her from effecting positive changes。 With this realization； she took the next step in bringing more discipline to her life — by going for counseling。 Meanwhile； some of her friends offered to e to her house and help her clean up； putting her even more solidly on a habit…changing course。
Mind over matter I remember my school days and Mom’s regular reveille， “Time to get up！” I agonized in bed until the last minute and ran my mother’s patience short。 Then I went away to college and had to get myself up。 Finally； tired of waging war with waking； I decided that when the alarm rang； I would rise — just because I wanted to； regardless of how I felt。 It has worked ever since。
In Feeling Good； The New Mood Therapy David D。 Burns； ； writes， “Motivation does not e first； action does！You have to prime the pump。 If you wait until you’re ‘in the mood；’ you may wait forever。” When you don’t feel like doing something； you tend to put it off； but it’s often after we get involved in a task that we bee highly motivated。
Discipline is habit…forming。 A little leads to more； because the benefits prove increasingly desirable。 When you finally overe inertia； you will feel better all around。 We are at our best —physically and mentally—when we are disciplined。
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成功人士的共性（1）
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世间可有“成功的个性”——也就是那些注定使人成功的优势组合？如果的确有，那么，其秘诀何在？每个人都能培养出“成功的个性”吗？
近来我们在盖洛普组织集中深入地对成功问题进行了研究，在美国《名人录》中随机选取了1500名杰出人物，研究他们的态度和性格特征。在《名人录》中选取人物的重要标准是他们在其所属领域作出了被公众接受的贡献，而不是财富和社会地位。我们的研究将高成就者身上频繁出现的几种性格特征准确地显示出来。以下是最重要的5条：
良好的判断力 这是被调查者所拥有的最普遍的品质。79％的人在这一项上都得了高分。并且61％的人说判断力为他们的成功立下了汗马功劳。
对多数人来说，判断力是指合情合理地解决日常事务的能力。要做到这一点，就该扫除无关主题的思想的羁绊，确定事情的核心。一名得克萨斯的石油和天然气业的巨头如是说：“简单化是获取成功的一个重要能力。在主持会议和处理工业规定时，将一个复杂问题变成最简单的条款非常有必要。”
良好的判断力是一个人与生俱来的特征，还是后天提高的呢？那位石油大亨回答说，良好的判断力肯定可以培养出来。他把自己的这种能力归功于在学校学习辩论的技巧。增强判断力的另一种方法是观察别人，从别人和自己的错误中学习。
对你所在的领域了如指掌 在良好的判断力后，拥有某一领域的专业知识是被调查者的第二个普遍特征，3／4的人在这一项上给自己打了满分。
曾任坦尼科石油勘探公司总裁的地质学家菲利浦？奥克斯勒，现任坦尼科公司欧洲分公司的主席。他把曾在油田工作过作为自己成功的一大原因，通过“在油井边坐着，观察地质队员”，他学到了第一手成功秘诀。“要成为出色的管理者需要对自己的事业所处的行业有切实的了解。”他说。如今，他的专业知识为他赢得了六位数的年薪。
专业知识的重要性在实际的工作经验中得到了证明。他说了解自己设备的工作方式是他成功秘诀的一部分。值得注意的是：他不是通过正规的学校教育获得专业知识的，而是自学成才的。
依赖自己 成就大事业的人基本是依赖自身的资源和能力。77％的被调查者给自己的这一特点打A。依赖自己并非你感觉如何或认为你有多好就可以了；而要看你是否有魄力采取